hello and welcome our topic for today is
reclaiming your identity after narcissistic abuse and we’re going to
break this down in actionable steps for growth and healing. please support our
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once you’re awake to the narcissists game, many survivors feel as though
they’re coming out of a fog. suddenly you realize that all of your focus and
energy has been hijacked and used to advance the narcissists agenda. you
realize the narcissist has attacked your self-esteem and many times they’ve
distorted your identity with their mind games and manipulations. this is why a
big part of reclaiming your identity is to shift your focus from the narcissist
back onto you. the narcissist is usually left the survivor in a state of chaos
and despair. one of the quickest ways to readjust your focus is to remember who
you are and hold fast to the knowledge that the narcissist doesn’t get to
define you. YOU define YOU. a good exercise is journaling. you can do this
on your mobile device, your laptop or – the old fashioned way – with a pen and paper.
if it’s too difficult for you to write right now, you can dictate your message
into your phone. so here are some self discovery prompts you can answer in your
journal. and remember to take your time answering each question – there’s no rush.
number one: where were you when you felt strongest? where were you when you felt
strongest? before writing the answer to this question, I want you to close your
eyes and visualize the place where you felt your strongest. try to remember
details: like the time of day, the weather, how you felt and write all of these down.
meditate on where your strength came from. and how it felt at that moment.
write this down in as much detail as possible. number two: use five words to describe
yourself on your best day. use five words to describe yourself on your best day. on
your best day – at your most confident – what five words describe who you are?
write them down and give examples of each word. describe which of these five
qualities you’re most proud of and why. number three:
what does freedom look like to you? what does freedom look like to you?
where would you be if you were free? what would you be doing if there was nothing
holding you back? are these things that you can do now? how can you make them
happen in your life today? number four: imagine your adult self meeting your
child self. imagine your adult self meeting your child self. you’re now given
the responsibility to care for and protect that child. write down the ways
you will commit to making your child self feel loved and secure. how will you
keep your child self nurtured? write down your plan to make your child self safe
and sound? number five: ask your child self
what they need to feel happy playful and free? ask your child self what they need
to feel happy playful and free? what are the needs of your inner child? how can
you go beyond being your inner child’s carer and become their best friend? what
do you have to do to gain your trust? how can you bring your inner child out to
play? now play can be anything you choose from coloring to dress-up. use
your imagination to figure out what you will give your
inner child so that they can experience healing and joy. so those are five
prompts you can use to reclaim your identity by affirming your adult self as
well as reconnecting with and nurturing your child self, whose needs were
completely abandoned while you were in the grip of a toxic relationship. forgive
yourself. think of yourself as someone who was blind who can now see. at first,
the light will hurt your eyes and you may stumble before you’re able to find
your point of balance but always remember: it gets better! if you’re known
back then what you know today you would NEVER have exposed yourself to someone
who would bring such negativity to your life. now YOU’RE in control and you know
better and step by step the healing will come. remember: if you give yourself even a drop of the love you gave to the narcissist, you’ll be living your best
life in no time. that’s how much POWER you have within you! so hang on friend
and keep working on yourself. be resilient and productive in your
self-care until you learn to make your own needs a priority and balance is
restored. if you found this video helpful please hit the like and subscribe
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learn from each other. until next time be good to yourself we’ll talk again soon.