Porn Addiction

Porn Addiction



It could seem like a strange topic to be discussing. It doesn't come up much in polite company. Yet, we know that as many as 35% of U.S. and U.K. males under 50 will be struggling with it to a degree they themselves find somewhat dispiriting in their reflexive moments. In it's most extreme form: using up hour after hour, it starts to sap relationships, motivation, and sheer well-being. The first move is to insist that the problem is neither ridiculous nor unfathomable. It starts with a simple design flaw in our brains, brains that evolved to respond powerful to stimuli like, sexual attraction or sugar, in conditions where these were very scarce indeed. These brains just never acquired a capacity for self-control commensurate with the temptations offered by the modern, technologically enhanced world. Levels of discipline that, were at one point, entirely adequate to deal with sexual opportunities in the small villages of the east African grasslands, just can't cope with galleries filled with images of millions of highly fertile, well proportioned, digitized, naked people. Why ever do anything other than look? The problem of porn is identical with that of food: brains that were geared to take quick advantage of the occasional presence of a few berries are now defenseless before the vats of artificial sweeteners turned out by our remorseless technologies. People don't spend hours looking at pornography on the screen because they are bad, but because the porn is so very good, that is, devilishly well adapted to breaking down all arguments against it. Crucially, in all cases of addiction, it's never that we're simply greedy, or lusty, or depraved; the real reason is always more poignant and more worthy of sympathy: we get addicted because we're sad. The business of living is so desperately hard: relationships are so challenging, work often so unfulfilling or boring, family dynamics so tricky, and the capacity for honest, kindly conversation so restricted, we may, through no particular fault of our own, fall into despondency of a kind that leaves us extremely vulnerable to the sudden intense highs offered by short films about lesbians trying anal, or plate after plate of iced buns. What we call addiction, invariably, has the same structure: a difficult life, plus a very intense diversionary pleasure, plus a technologically induced way of increasing that pleasure to a pitch which breaks our minds natural muscles of self-control. The cause of porn addiction isn't, therefore, porn. It's careers that are fraught, and relationships where we can't get our point across, and essays that are devilishly tricky to author. The real cure to addiction is, hence, simple in structure: to find something nicer to pursue than the thing we're addicted to. But of course, that's going to be very hard, for comparable highs are not widely to hand. Yet, a chief and immediate enemy is shame, which reinforces the feeling of low self worth and helps inspire the addiction in the first place. It's therefore helpful to insist on a few points: that addiction is normal, that it's not our fault, it's that of a brain that wasn't made to cope with the temptations before us, that there's no need for self disgust; the addicted are almost in the majority, though we'd never know it, that we should draw courage from the confessions of others, that we should acknowledge the sadness in our lives, that we should interpret it with the necessary dignity, that we should hold the pain and incompleteness in mind without fleeing it, that we should use it to power something more relevant to our talents, reroute your manic energy, try to heal someone else's pain, swap this addiction for another, slightly less fruitless one, become compulsive elsewhere. And then, a banal, but critical point: we should try never to be left alone with a computer when we are in a vulnerable state. Let the rational parts of our structure life so that we'll be less at risk in moments of sadness. It's simply the ultimate cruelties that the machine we do all our work on also happens to host the magic door to a play land more phantasmagorical than anything the Marquis de Sade could have dreamt up. Secular, modern people often automatically assume that sexuality can't exert a momentous power over our minds. They're being too sanguine, and therefore unwittingly, rather mean. Online porn has an unparalleled power to get in the way of almost every other rather important and precious thing around, starting with the rest of our lives. We should forgive ourselves for being so drawn to these intense, often rather harmful highs in a world that's mostly grey and arduous. Then, with all the will we can muster, we should try to switch off.

48 thoughts on “Porn Addiction”

  1. so if this video is dedicated for porn addicts,why fill it wth sext triggering porn stars?
    Dudes,sorry.but I have to say it.
    The one who made the video is a fucking moron.
    I would be very happy to see a blank video with absolutely nothing rather than this.

  2. I get bored by porn in about 4 mins. It gets repetetive and I stop getting a good feeling from it. I just switch to gaming or anime. I don't know why, but porn is just forced and boring after you get over the intense aroused phase.

  3. ok, I have watched two of these in the past hour, why have both of them contained sights and sounds of porn, I think most of the audience seeking out this information are people who are already addicted to porn you're not doing them any favors, the information is good but the presentation is unfortunate for the subject matter. I had to look to the side of the screen because you filled the screen with these disgusting images, seriously, what the hell

  4. This has to be the most ill informed person on the planet about porn. Porn has nothing to do with sadness. I can't believe this guy is posting this garbage

  5. My favorite porn stars were Lisa Ann, Audrey Bitoni, Alexis Texas! But yes…..I am an addict and I admit it. To me, the feminist agenda (depopulation agenda by the NWO) and broken families, especially single mother households are two main reasons men and woman grow up screwed with mental problems, anxiety disorders, food addictions, drug/alcohol abuse, promiscuity, life of crime for some, lack of vision and empowerment ect. As men, we tend to drown out our sorrows and life's desparities with other problems on top of the ones we have! And these problems are…..you guessed it……addictions.

  6. Nothing wrong with watching a little porn and rubbing one out here and there, but if it’s an addiction, it’s a problem, just like any other addiction.

  7. renato vargas jr

    Thank you. This will definitely help. It’s been hard trying to quit it, but after this. It’ll definitely give me that push.

  8. So, I guess you shouldn't sit alone by a computer when feeling sad for the same reason you shouldn't go shopping at the grocery store when hungry.

  9. My ex was an addict 🙁 I really loved him but he wasn't good for me. Sucks because I loved him more than anyone I'd dated in a very long time

  10. Christian Martinez

    Porn adicction is not talked about enough. I feel like there’s a huuuuge part of the population that is suffering from it.

  11. Peaceful Painting

    No girls would ever want you if she finds out your addicted to porn you disgusting fuckers. Control your dicks you sad fucks!

  12. Peaceful Painting

    I literally do not understand how anyone can look at porn let along get off to it. Bring female I know that those girls in porn are not enjoying the sex in the film. some of them may not have ever even had an orgasm….looking at the stupid awful and painful faces they pull and the retarded fake noises they make during filming has me think they have never even had an orgasm. The falseness of porn really really confuses me as to how anyone could enjoy it?

  13. I had to pause the video before these saucy images could stimulate a kick of dopamine in me.
    This video is definitely pro-porn.

  14. Lets say that consumption would be reduced if the desires that cause this action could be satisfied by regular accompany of another physical being.

  15. …And what rational or ethical justification can you provide for the intended demand to recude pornographic consumption?

  16. Phylippe Zimmermann Paquin

    i just finished some hardcore porn a couple minutes ago now this is on my newsfeed. lowkey insulted?

  17. I wish it had fewer images and sexual content. That way I could share it more easily with more people.
    Also, the images distract the mind from the provided logic.

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