Monique Confronts the Pain of Sexual Abuse Endured in Foster Care | Iyanla: Fix My Life | OWN

Monique Confronts the Pain of Sexual Abuse Endured in Foster Care | Iyanla: Fix My Life | OWN


– Tell your mama what happened. IYANLA VANZANT: Tell her. Yes. She used to take
me in the basement. IYANLA VANZANT: Tell
her what she did. Everything. Her fingers, her
tongue, her boobs. IYANLA VANZANT: Yeah, yeah. Tell her it’s OK. Yeah, Mother, tell the baby– mother, you have to
secure the child first. I got you. I got you. I got you. IYANLA VANZANT: Miss
Monique, open your mouth and let that sound out. Don’t hold that sound inside. What do you want to say?
What’s that right there? Say that.
Speak it. Look at your mom and speak it.
Tell her. Tell her.
Tell her. I never wanted to tell nobody. I can relate. I’m sorry that you didn’t– I’m so proud of you. I’m so, so proud of you. And I’m sorry that
you were hurt. And I’m sorry that
you’ve been carrying all this around inside for so long.

74 thoughts on “Monique Confronts the Pain of Sexual Abuse Endured in Foster Care | Iyanla: Fix My Life | OWN”

  1. One of the most painful Iyanla episodes I ever watched. ๐Ÿ˜ข. But healing comes in Spirit and in truth. I appreciated the rawness of what the mother and daughter shared. Now healing can begin.

  2. God's Obedient Child-Deuteronomy 27:10 & 30:2

    Lord, as they go through their journey of healing, please comfort them with Your Precious Holy Spirit and reveal to them Your love and peace, in Jesus' Wonderful and Beautiful name, AMEN๐Ÿ™โ˜๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿ˜Š!

  3. At least she has a caring mother that shows her how much she loves her daughter right there says a lot ppl. "I told my mother about what happen 2 me when her bro and his wife took me in at age 9 , but the sexual abuse started around age 12 from my uncle and his nasty son's. I guess when a no good mom give up all 4 of her daughters at a young age care less what happens once there giving away like dogs๐Ÿ•Smfh

  4. When I say am not trusting nobody with my babies listen I donโ€™t even let nobody watch my puppy only my parents and boyfriend been with my boyfriend for three years and parents a lifetime i have siblings but donโ€™t know the people they be around so thatโ€™s a no go ๐Ÿ™…๐Ÿฝ my parents were so overprotective with me now I know why and am be the same way with mine happily ๐Ÿ™ƒ

  5. People carry so much pain around with them all their life! It breaks my heart. They suppress until their is no option but to come up! Whether itโ€™s 2, 10 or 20 years later! Majority of cases all stems back to childhood. I hope these women can be successfully healed and can start to live a life filled with joy and abundunce.

  6. I dont know what say or feel . Im crying. You get commenters and other professionals talk about Ms. Iyanla not this ,she's not that and you must watch out for people like that. but it's funny if she did a hundred episodes and she helped heal one or two families or one two people, her job is done. Some of you who are qualified on paper can't even do that but because of jealousy they can't find it to even give that woman her props that if she did a hundred episodes and she saves at least as one family ,one person to help them deal with their pain she's wonderful in my book. What's sad is usually our own chopping somebody else who looks just like them down because they haven't reached the levels somebody else has. Ms Iyanla please keep doing your thing because there are those of us who appreciate you and may God continue on help you help those who need it. Sometimes God anoints or gives talent to some and he doesn't demand that you have couple of letters after your name or a degree to do what he has blessed you to do. I'm sure I'm Not alone when I say you've even helped some of us through TV screen

  7. This thang had me sitting straight up, hand over my mouth, wiping my face…๐Ÿคฆ๐Ÿฝโ€โ™€๏ธ Iโ€™m exhausted! Lord, please heal these womenโ€™s hearts.

  8. I'm so glad this mother and daughter worked through their generational trauma. I'm so proud of both of them being willing to call their violations up, name them cry, comfort and heal. The best is yet to come for them together.

  9. She's so brave to share all the traumas. I feel for her! Now that she managed to release all of it, she can hopefully move on and start a new beginning! Another book with full of good memories to look forward to. Have faith and someday you will be amazed of what you can do!

  10. Lady you are creepy really creep
    May God have mercy on your soul wow,,,,
    I don't know why Oprah cannot see through you I can she's pretty smart

  11. With All the pain that people endure as children. Please help me overstand WHY is everybody always going to church with their comments on this page๐Ÿค”.. These people are going through it ..and this so called mystery God Was never there.
    Children were being molested, raped, tortured, and many killed. Where was this Almighty God!
    Iโ€™ll be glad when people wake up and realize that the helping hand you need is at the end of your own arm.!
    And STOP playing the God is good & the devil is bad blame game๐Ÿ˜ 
    When we as African descendants begin to KNOW who we are and the powers that lay within, we will become more aware of our surroundings and begin to hear the voices of our ancestors so that we can protect our children from this dangerous, sick society, that has been bred into our people . Stop ignoring the signs .. Stop being SELFISH, lazy, insecure, jealous, hateful, mean, stubborn, neglectful gluttonous, & materialistic.
    Begin to look within there you will find the good as well as the evil. and get off of that white man on the cross caz he doesnโ€™t give too hoots about you or your children.
    Donald Trump is a prime example of the times where living in.
    Our โ€œQueen Motherโ€
    โ€œIyanlah Vanzantโ€ was sent to our community to help our people as a race. She is a Divine Gift amongst women so that we can begin to behave as Children Of Pharaohs Again. As we once reigned on this planet. In Matriarchal Royalty When Chaos Did Not Exists Mothers Wake Up! #GetOut #BlackPanthers
    #QueenOfSheba๐Ÿ™๐Ÿฟ

  12. The trauma of sexual abuse is life long. Some are able to move past it;others are tormented for life. No child should ever be unprotected in this world. We as Black People have to protect "OUR" children; whether it's your cousin, neighbor, niece, nephew, any child we see in distress. We as a people have to do better when it comes to protecting children. We have to hold Child Protective Services accountable for taking children out of the homes of non-abusive parents and placing them in homes where they're being violated. Happy this young lady and her mother were able to heal each other. The mother has a good heart and wants the healing. Prayerfully these two women realize they have each other.

  13. The pain they endured and still standing. My God bless them with healing, peace, mercy and your love. Thank you for Iyanla's platform. She is lancing old wounds to let the spiritual infection out, so they can heal. Have mercy on us all and protect our babies from this evil in this world.

  14. This was definitely a powerful episode! I'm happy that they appear to be on one Accord and going to support each other. This mother-daughter pair seem like they'll better chance at a successful outcome than the mother who lied to her three daughters.

  15. The power of love and forgiveness overcomes ANYTHING. LOVE the fact that the mother and daughter are striving to overcome their hardships and personal mental battles with demons of the past that have been haunting them for decades. Child molestation must come to an end and cease as well as every demonic influence.

  16. I feel so bad for them. It made me cry. This happens more often then not, people are afraid to talk about it, because it makes them feel dirty, and less than. The sooner you talk about it, I think you can begin to heal. That's a lot for a kid to carry all the way into adulthood.

  17. Hands down one of the best episodes ever. They were both so willing to be vulnerable. God bless them. I'm inspired. Thank you for this one. It couldn't have been easy to be so transparent. I will keep them in my prayers. These 2 blessed me. May God continue to keep them.

  18. Until we confront mean for sleeping with children we cant fix this. Even female abusers were typically abused themselves. We need fathers,sons, brothers to help protect not beat us down

  19. This is why my babies arent allowed to go everywhere as much as me and my husband be needing a break if it aint the few ppl we do allow oh well..cause lord only knows what i would do

  20. Some people are so sick to do that to anyone let alone children. If anyone ever hurt my sons in that way…๐Ÿ’€ I prayed for continued healing for this family.

  21. ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘

  22. I don't have words to express how much I love Iyanla!

    I don't have words to describe how much Iyanla helped me and so many other women and men!

    thank you !

  23. ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜ and again and again and again ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜in Jesus name amen๐Ÿ€„๐Ÿ™๐Ÿฝ.. the way they hugged mother and daughter ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜..

  24. You just never know what a person has gone through, but itโ€™s never too late to go through the process of healing. The work has just begun. Itโ€™s terrible how strong this pathology is in the black community of every nationality. This is not talked about enough.

  25. Victorias Secretions

    Everyone in this feed trusts no one with their kids. They lock their kids by their side 24 7 and home school them. Their kids get exposed to NO ONE but the mom and tv.

    None of yall hopefully do that. But thats what everyones saying.

  26. This bring some bad memories am happy to see their relationship healing itโ€™s very hard to tell someone when you feel broken already canโ€™t stop crying

  27. Let me tell y'all DO NOT trust anybody with your children. Talk to your babies, let them know the places no one should touch. I've been talking to my boys since age 3! Talk to your kids let them know what Predators say. My boys are so smat when knowing what to look for becsuse I teach them. Children in this day and time need to be aware. There are some SICK people out here!

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