Let’s Talk About Relationship Abuse | Hannah Witton | ad

Let’s Talk About Relationship Abuse | Hannah Witton | ad

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  1. Great video. Economic abuse is a big one too. My mum grew up being a stay at home mother and my father was the one with a job. He would control her because he was providing the income. He did things like control how much petrol he put in the car too make sure she couldn't go far. If she bought things he didn't think we needed (eg ice creams) he'd lower her house keeping until she wouldn't be able to properly feed the family. Then he would blame her. Sigh. So glad she divorced him 6 months ago. Finally able to live her life.

  2. You have the same outro music as the gender analysis videos by Zinna Jones ๐Ÿ™‚ She lost the file for it so she sang it in her last video ๐Ÿ˜› She'd probably thank you if you send it to her ๐Ÿ™‚

  3. I have a friend, who admits that she is in an unhealthy relationship but she stays with him because "love is madness, as Shakspear said". She is living through the same shit I did, with the main difference that I wanted to get out and I had to wrap my head around the fact, that I can't do anything.

    What I'm trying to say is, don't get yourself down when you can't help someone in a situation like this. All you can do is be there for them, when they need you.

  4. Nicely done, Hannah! My suggestion to abuse, stop and walk! Try that again and I will phone the police! Yes, I had to do this! ๐Ÿ‡จ๐Ÿ‡ฆ๐Ÿ˜Š

  5. I was in a relationship once where my feelings were always completely disrespected and my trust constantly broken, yet whenever I tried to talk to him about it, he would act like he'd done nothing wrong and like I was the terrible partner for calling him out, the worst thing was, that I started to believe him, because he was just so good at manipulating me

  6. Thank you so much for making this video. This is one of the few sources on abusive relationships that doesn't just list all the symptoms of borderline personality disorder as the signs of abuse.

  7. This video just reminded me of Rob and Helens relationship on the archers. Rob is so incredibly controlling of Helen without her even realising, it's excruciating to listen to. Great video Hannah, informative and you got the tone absolutely spot on.

  8. I've been loving your sponsored videos lately, they allow me to know about lot of interesting and important associations/campaigns that I would never hear about otherwise: thank you!!

  9. thank you so much for this and other videos like this !! it's so educational, it's really helpful and opens the conversation, you're so empowering it's admirable

  10. noortje schrauwen

    i think a friend of mine is getting abused by his girlfriend. the thing is he isn't really a friend, he kind of really dislikes me. he is my ex and he used to abuse me, we are over it,i had to be because i see him every week. the thing is i don't really know if i should show him this video and if i do I'm scared he'll get really angry with me and i really really don't set him of again. what should i do? and how?

  11. Such an important topic! Even if you've heard some of this stuff before, it's always good to get a refresher and re-evaluate the different relationships in your life. Anyone has the capability to be abusive, be they your partner, friend, family member, co-worker, etc.

  12. This is such an important topic to discuss, really great video Hannah ๐Ÿ™‚ think it's also notable that relationship abuse can happen at any age, as control/ manipulation often develop or become more extreme over time, which makes it harder to escape or even notice when your life with that person is so intertwined (and obviously feelings of isolation and guilt exacerbate this difficulty with escape)

  13. Thank you so much for this Hannah.
    As someone who has been in an abusive relationship, this video really hit home. And it's so great to see it being talked about more, especially emotional and mental abuse as this, in my experience at least, isn't normally taken as seriously. It's been four years since that relationship ended, and I am still dealing with the effects my abuser caused.

  14. AnnaLovesVlogging

    This all resonates with me because I was in an abusive relationship a couple years ago, but 1:08 – 1:16 is especially spot on for me. I'll never forget my ex-husband saying things like "I like your stomach because there's so much fat on it" (I was 85 pounds at the time) and "if you leave me, no one else will ever want you or put up with you." Well he was obviously wrong because I'm in a loving, healthy relationship now. ๐Ÿ™‚

  15. Thanks so much for making this Hannah, as someone whose parent is in an emotionally abusive relationship, it means a lot to see someone talking about the many forms that abuse comes in, keep making videos โค๏ธโค๏ธ

  16. Fantastic video Hannah! This was really concise and well put together and I commend you for being willing to talk about a more heavy, serious topic (something which many people with audiences your size tend to avoid doing). I also love the fact that this video in particular is sponsored because it literally benefits everyone <3

  17. This is fantastic, thanks for spreading awareness, I myself have been in an abusive relationship, it was the hardest time of my life and I never expected it would happen to me, an independent, happy go lucky individual. I spoke with my friends and they understood that it takes time to make the sure you end things in the right way in order to avoid blackmail, physical abuse etc. The more awareness, the better. If you are in an abusive relationship just know that it can get better, you are incredible to be so strong to get through this, you are brave and you deserve better. Big love Hannah ๐Ÿ˜„

  18. My friend chose the abuser over me almost a year ago now and I miss her so very much. She's still with him, I had to cut her out of my life because she hurt me so very much. I worry about her and I don't know what to do. I have spent countless hours trying to convince Her and linked her so a copious amount of articles and videos but she will never listen. It breaks my heart because she is ruining her life and I can't do anything about it.

  19. Thank you so much for talking about this, I feel that topics like these are usually avoided, but it's great that you went so in-depth <3

  20. as someone who is still recovering from the aftermarth and after effects of the abusive relationship I was in, this is a great video to see. I didn't realise my relationship was abusive because he didn't physically hurt me. Emotional abuse, manipulation and control can be scarring and traumatic; it's really not talked about enough. Not that domestic abuse should be underestimated, but other kinds of abuse really should be given more awareness. xx

  21. I just saw an advert on the tele for this coincidentally. I thought it was a shame how they really implied that the only scenario is women getting abused by men, i felt the advert sort of closed the doors on anyone who doesn't fall into that group (gay couples, abused men) – so I much preferred your version. I understand they're trying to focus on the main issue (male on female abuse) but a line about "abuse can happen to anyone regardless of your gender or sexuality" would have been a good addition.

  22. Everything you said that are sign of abuse I had with my ex boyfriend I know he was poisonous but….. I'm still trying to get my head around it all…. I still have to see him everyday. So to he doesn't seem like a bad person. How do I stop thinking about him Hannah?

  23. Hey Hannah, would you mind if I showed this video to my form class next week in PHSE, we are currently discussing abusive relationships (14/15 year old class) and I think that using your video and some of your others perhaps would really benefit them X

  24. legitimate question, what differentiates verbal abuse from a typical argument? Couples fight, we all know this, so when does it bridge that fine line?

  25. If I'd had a video like this when I was in high school I would have seen the signs sooner and actually understood what my friends were trying to tell me about my boyfriend at the time. It's scary to hear a list like that and tick it all off after the fact, not having realised it during. Thanks Hannah and keep educating ๐Ÿ™‚

  26. Great video Hannah. Next time it might be worth including that relationship abuse can happen in different relationships. Not just between you and your partner. Iv'e experienced relationship abuse through a sibling.

  27. Religious abuse is something new to me but I've definitely seen it used. Manipulation within relationships using religious contexts.

  28. You nailed this. Really enjoyable and succinct. I felt like the YouTube community had "moved on" from talking about issues like this… very glad you've made something that could help and highlight things to anyone going through something like this. ๐Ÿ™‚ Kudos x

  29. Hey Hannah, great video, as usual. I would love to see a follow up video on what is the best thing to do if you see a friend start exhibiting abusive behavior with their partner.

  30. Phil Hankins Music

    I really loved this video! Thanks for making it as inclusive as it was. Super articulate and very informative. Nice background music choice as well, subtle but effective. A* all round ๐Ÿ˜€ xx

  31. So I wish someone had sent me this back when I had a controlling and abusive partner. This will do so much good. Well done.

  32. Great video! However I had a big problem with the adverts put out by the organisation. I've seen the advert on the TV many times and I can't help noticing that the abuser portrayed by a body part always has a male voice and the victim always has a female voice. As a feminist this worries me and I feel like young men who find themselves in an abusive relationship with another man or woman will think this does not apply to them as it only portrays women as the victims. This also adds to the problem that not enough men come forward about their abuse. Just an opinion ๐Ÿ™‚

  33. It saddens me that I'll probably have to send this to many of my friends in the future, but I'm glad it's there. Nice one, Hannah

  34. So lovely to hear an eloquent and thorough discussion on a subject that is so relevant not only to romantic relationships, but also friendships as well. As always, thank you for being your lovely self Hannah ๐Ÿ™‚

  35. Well done Hannah, you're so good at wording difficult topics and making it seem easier to talk about to an audience! We need more you tubers like you! xx

  36. Ireallyreally Hategoogle

    We are all in an abusive relationship with the governments of the world.
    They are constantly disrespecting us, make us feel pressured, scared and controlled.
    They are constantly calling us names, hitting us, checking all of our communications (phones, emails, …), pressuring us to work, obey the rule and never ever disagree with the state, preventing us from peacefully hanging out with hundreds of our closest friends (protests), using threats of terrorism to revoke our rights, using propaganda to try and convince us that they are the only ones we can trust and that they hurt us because they love us.

    Bullying and relationship abuse are learned behaviours that come from the top. In a system that favours bullies and uses abuse to control people, what would you expect?

  37. I was in an abusive relationship for 5 months. I literally refused to believe anything was wrong. I had just started uni and I dropped out at Christmas after a term. that term was spent not making friends, letting my boyfriend sleep on my floor after nights out with HIS friends, but not me, coming back at 5am horribly drunk, only showing affection when drunk, making me feel like he was the good guy and everyone around me, trying to protect me, were the enemies. he asked for my facebook password and I gave it to him and every time we disagreed I would end up apologising and insisting he was right. all because I was scared. now I'm out of it and I've met other people who aren't like that. I know there are good people out there. don't let yourself be blinded like I was.

  38. This is a great video with a lot of good information. I wish I'd seen things like this when I was younger and in a relationship with an abuser for nearly 9 years because it wasn't physical and I never realised the signs (possessiveness, isolation etc).

  39. I've witnessed my sister and friends go through abusive relationships. A lot of my friends think it's normal and that's how relationships are. Sometimes people are so badly damaged that they don't see it. My advice to my friends is if your child treated their partner like that would you be happy? If you child was being treated like by their partner would you be happy. If they say no, I just say why do you think it's okay for it to be happening to you. You are worth so much more.

  40. I experienced a kind of abuse when my boyfriend at the time attacked me during an argument. It took everything I had to leave him and completely block him out of my life. I thought he loved me and looking back on it, I realise that it wasn't just physical abuse that happened in the relationship. My friend is now going through something similar and won't listen or take my advice. I have no idea how to get through to her because I was there once as well and I didn't listen. What do I do?

  41. Duty Free Critic by M.Dee

    This is really cool. I hadn't heard of this campaign before and I just really like that you went further and talked about how physical abuse isn't the only type of abuse.

  42. …wow my ex friend literally did most of this stuff to his on and off girlfriend and now he claims he's changed. A big reason why I stopped hanging around em. Their paths are sorta stuck together since they got a kid now first she wants nothing to do with him after the baby and now since he's acting all chummy they're friends again. …Did I mention he's super paranoid and is an open conspiracy theorist who never shuts up. Life's weird…

  43. that ad for disrespectnobody is insinuating heavily it's only men that are abusive, it's not a gender specific thing, women abuse just as much.

  44. Im happy you atleast mentioned that Females can be abusive to Men, many abuse guides say only M can do it to F. Thanks.

  45. this add was on my son's video this is hardly what I want him hearing (he's 5) her talking about naked photos is inappropriate. the points ok but shouldn't be a forced ad

  46. I know this is serious but please stop being in ads cause I am really young and I don't need to know this stuff as I have nightmares..

  47. Thank you for this Video Hannah! This needs to be talked about more. I'm using this video to help support my campaign tomorrow to be an officer at my school. People, especially teenagers need to understand this topic more. Thank you for the awareness!

  48. I appreciate you making this and increasing people awareness but I do not appreciate youtube playing it every time I open a new video today and not giving me a skip button. Sorry.

  49. i am only 10 and im watching this just to learn about this type of abuse for school since we are learning about reletionships and my sister when through this type of abuse once she got thrown nto a wall and the into the tv :n:

  50. My x kept asking me for nudes and i didn't want to break up with him and so i asked my friends while on a school trip without him on the trip. They reassured me that i shouldn't have to feel that way and so i built up the confidence to break up with him and have felt so much better since. He still gives me dirty looks but i have my friends to support me and no one can take them away from me๐Ÿ˜Š

  51. idk if someone has already said this but if you try to get out of an abusive relationship then your abuser can say lots of things to make you stay in my experience that used guilt to try and make me stay saying that were going to kill themselves or that they would have no where to go and i just want to say you should not feel sorry for them and i know it's hard af but try. lots of love xx

  52. Moonlightshine Moonlight shine

    Not BIENG rude but I was going to watch zoella makeup look and this popped up on an add I am 9 and it was really weird beacuse I could not skip it now I am having nightmares

  53. What happens if it is a parent such as a father calling the mother horrible names and blaming everything on her?

  54. Why is this mainly targeted to men? It sounds like the whole advert is talking about what men do to women but it happens to men too?

  55. I was in an abusive relationship for just over a year, I'm 6 months clean of it now but it got so bad. I ended up not being able to speak to anyone and whenever we messaged eachother, I wasn't allowed to go offline for even a minute, I recently found out that he was cheating on me with his ex for months on end while we were still together. The funny thing is, his ex actually told me about it before but he made her lie to me saying she lied about the whole thing! Thankfully it got too much for me and I did my research on his behaviour so I became aware. I'm glad this video has been made because I had no clue what to look out for to begin with, thank you!!

  56. So, i watched this video and my m8 is in a new relationship with this girl (not naming names) but she stops him seeing all of us (my friends) and tbh idk what to do any more because he is very close to her and he picks her over all of me and my m8's even though we have been there for him for like 3 years. She also hits him and calls him names and laughs about it after, but if he calls her a name as a joke she slaps his face and goes crazy then does not talk to him all day after and this goes on all the time and me and him have talked about this but he says "yes i know i need to ask her to stop being so aggressive" but nothing happens after and i dont know what to do any more it hurts me to see my best m8 like this.

  57. Every female ive had a relationship with has abused me, always doing daily phone checks and always saying if i don't do this and then it means i don't love them. in my experience they want money and arguments for the fun of it, not love, kindness or peace.

  58. I really don't know what to do. My mother has been with someone (not my father) for 8 years now. She left her children and betrayed my father to be with him (at the same time my father was a shitty husband who was rarely there for my mother and sometimes made her feel ashamed for certain things). 2 years into the relationship her bf began to physically abuse her and I used to see my mother visit us with bruises all over her face. I was only 8 years old so I was pretty confused. My sister and I have always hated her bf because we blamed him for our mother not living with us anymore. He was an alcoholic and he used to always insult and cheat on my mother. They broke up but got back together 2 months later when he bought her a Louis Vuitton bag. They constantly broke up and got back together. Since a year ago I have been living with my mother, sister, and her bf. My father was never home because he was always working and when my sister was struggling with a mental illness they thought it

  59. Youtube Renegade

    I don't know what happened but my comment edit was supposed to be this:

    ย "Consent has to be given freely and no one can be made to consent to something. Itโ€™s not consent if someone does something because they feel like they have to."

    Hmmm… I think there's a difference between someone being manipulated into doing something and someone being persuaded or making compromises to accommodate their partner. Could you elaborate on that distinction a little more? People who have been persuaded have changed their mind and are still consenting freely and making compromises is important for a healthy relationship. Pressure is not in-and-of-itself bad, though that is the present day assumption an age where lack of commitment and responsibility are falsely confused with individuality and personal freedom. What is bad is how someone is being pressured, what they're being pressured into and if that pressure is being used to gain power over the individual. I think this topic is better left addressedย by you, Ms. Witton. Perhaps in a future video?

  60. I used to get abused by my ex emotionally. She's like the ultra possessive/obsessed type of girlfriend who controls me and my life. Plus, I didn't even dared to "touch" her at all because that's how I respect women. She even told me that "Fvck respect! Do indecent things to me!" That was the first time I experienced such nightmare but it's a good thing that I love myself and got out of the situation before it gets any worse. But it hurts like hell that the girl you thought was the one didn't loved you the way you loved her. It's crazy, I know.

    By the way, I love your accent. Wish I could marry it. ๐Ÿ˜›

  61. Thank you so much for talking about this topic. I could never put into words what my ex boyfriend has done to me but now I think I can. It took me some time to I realize that emotional abuse is a thing and that it is just as relevant and bad as physical abuse. Instead of thinking about what I might have done wrong I can now process what has happened to me and finally leave it behind me. Again, thank you so much.

  62. back in high school I had a boyfriend for a year and a half who was very manipulative and controlling of what I did, how I dressed, and who I talked to. He constantly needed to know where I was "to protect me" and did not like me hanging out at family events or with close friends that for longer than a few days. the relationship before this had ended because the guy had cheated on me, so I was constantly worried about not being good enough or not doing enough to keep my relationship together. this boyfriend hung out with a lot of girls, and jokingly grabbed, touched, flirted, and attempted to do sexual acts with many of my friends (all of which refused) in order to make me jealous or feel unwanted, because he knew I was vulnerable enough to not stand up and leave him, but instead attempt to be more desirable and pleasure him. halfway through the relationship he began pressuring me to have sex with him. I did not because I didn't feel ready, but he still pressured for it more and more, to the point of almost forcing himself on me until I panicked and ran out of his house. Instead I did other sexual things such as oral and foreplay, with hopes that it was enough for him. he continued to attempt to make me jealous with other girls, and would ask ex girlfriends for nude photos, as I wouldn't send him those either. he also asked me to dress more "slutty" so "then at least other guys will be jealous that they can't have you". I was very uncomfortable with the clothes he expected me to wear and I could never dress to his expectations. he refused to take me to prom unless I would agree to have sex with him that night and also dress either completely covered in black with a veil (to "keep the other guys off me") or bright red tube top/dress ("so the other guys would beg for a piece of me"). Before prom we had broken up, because I finally grew fed up with his antics of asking girls for nudes and sexting girls in our school. he asked me to still go to prom with him which I refused and instead went with my best friend, who, at that prom, became my current boyfriend ๐Ÿ™‚

    I learned about a year ago how toxic and abusive my last relationship was, and I wish I knew such back then so I could've gotten out sooner. sometimes being sexual with my boyfriend still holds trauma from when I was forced to do those things with the ex, and I still feel possessive over my current boyfriend because I'm afraid he'll find someone else. I know it's not true but it's just a side effect from before. I'm very happy where I am now, and very soon I will be living rather far from my home town where my ex still lives, and I won't ever have to see him again.

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