Jordan Peterson: How To Overcome Your Addiction to PORN!!

Jordan Peterson: How To Overcome Your Addiction to PORN!!



what advice would you give to someone looking to quit porn well I gave some advice a little earlier about quitting alcohol you know and I would say it isn't that you're trying to quit porn it's not the right way to think about it the right way to think about it is that you're trying to figure out how to have a better life and so you have to figure out well I would say do the Future authoring program and keep your porn addiction in mind and think so in the first part of the future our TV program it asks you a bunch of questions about what your life could be like in three to five years if you took care of yourself like you or someone that you cared for and then it asks you questions about your friends and your family and your career and your time outside of work and your health and you know the important dimensions of life in it it asks you to spend 20 minutes writing about how good your life could be in three to five years if you got your act together and did what was good for you and then it asks you to write about the hell you could be and if you didn't and so I would say you really need to do that because porn isn't the issue the issue is that you're not living your life the way you want to so you need a vision of life that's more compelling than the porn and you need a counter vision too that frightens you you know because otherwise porn is obviously extraordinarily gratifying in the short term but but you seem to be suffering from the medium to long term consequences of its use and so you need a story that you can tell yourself that's really deeply thought through about why this is not appropriate for you what's what it's how it's hurting you and how it's minimizing you in milk crafts making you embarrassed and ashamed and more socially isolated and all of that so I would say think about it as cleaning up your psyche and and your behavior rather than merely started stopping stopping porn you also might want to write down and you could do this in the negative vision part of the future program you're gonna break down everything bad that you think porn is doing to you because obviously you have some suspicions that this is not good for you right that it's that it's actually harming you in some important way and so you need to be fully cognizant of what those ways are and then take them seriously and decide if that's the pathway through life on which you wish to travel and so on then I would also say good luck to you you know it's it's a very good idea to identify one of your weaknesses and work on it time you can you can strengthen yourself substantially by Jewish victim of the Nazis but they almost never think that they'd be the Nazi persecutor and that's a big mistake because when you read about history then you're reading about you even if the you is the perpetrator and unless you understand that then someone else has to be the perpetrator and if someone else is the perpetrator well then you have a devil that you can chase and you know maybe you've identified the devil properly because you know now and then it's like John Wayne Gacy or Ted Bundy or someone like that and you've actually you know you've identified a perpetrator but so often far too often the best way to constrain the malevolence outside is to constrain the malevolence within and so if you don't have a locale for the evil of the world and you have to externalize it because the evil of the world certainly exists now it's a better solution to assume that you're fully capable of the terrible things that people have been capable of throughout the history of humanity and to contend with that genuinely and there's massive advantages to that I mean first of all it can actually produce an remarkable increment self-esteem because you know if you're just a rabbit and you freeze whenever a wolf looks at you then you're just a frozen rabbit and that's not so good you're just a scared rabbit but maybe you learn one day that you're not a rabbit that you like you're actually quite the damn monster and you've got teeth and you could really use them in an underhanded and horrible way this is why people like antihero movie so much hay because they go and see the villains the Mafia guys and these tough guys and they anti-heroes that populate our imagination and think oh yeah well I'd really really like to be someone like that and the thing is is that being useless and weak it's better to be a monster than to be useless and weak and that's because being useless and weak makes you a worse monster than a monster that's why it's not like being a monster is good but weak useless monster is the worst kind of monster because that's the sort of monster that'll jump you in the dark and sink its teeth into the back of your neck instead of confronting you forthrightly in the alley and so if you start to see yourself as the perpetrator of historical you know if you can imagine yourself as an ostrich camp guard if you see yourself as as the the vicious villain of the human story then all of a sudden you've got a lot more respect for yourself and you can unlock that internal monster and that internal monster and then maybe you contain the damn thing or at least bring it bring it into some sort of partnership with yourself and then when someone pushes you around you can let a little bit of that out in your eyes just a little bit and you can say it would be better for you and for me if you didn't continue to do that and you can actually mean it and then actually it will stop because if you let a little bit of that out when you tell someone to stop the probability that they'll stop is extremely high and then just a tiny like vision of the monster you could become is enough to keep order in your house a and maybe in your state and so the masked shadow projection of the West well you know here's another thing so one of the things the Christians figured out was that the snake in the Garden of Eden was also Satan I can't get into that

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