How to Help an Alcoholic Get Help | Understanding Alcoholic Behaviors

How to Help an Alcoholic Get Help | Understanding Alcoholic Behaviors


The first thing you need
to do to help an alcoholic is not help them stay drunk. Alcoholics use their alcohol
as a solution to their problem, and like any addiction, an alcoholic wants to self-medicate their thoughts, their feelings, their traumas, their behaviors. Alcoholics remain comfortable, and as long as they’re outperforming everybody else at work,
there’s no focus on them. And as long as they’re
doing an A+ grade at work from nine to five, then what they do from
five to nine balances out, and they can justify their behaviors. Their biggest fear with alcoholics is they can’t lose that job. And if it were any other fatal illness, who would care about the job? If they had cancer, if
they had kidney failure, if alcoholism led to them
needing a liver transplant, who would care about the job? And people think jobs is what’s
gonna ultimately fix them. I’m an addictions professional. If jobs kept you sober, I’d be a job recruiter. I’d be helping people find new employment, and that would get you sober,
and that’s not how it works. The job’s not gonna get you sober. Jobs don’t get people sober. The alcoholic won’t stop
unless they have to. Every alcoholic is going
to have an intervention, whether you hire us, somebody
else like us, or not. I can’t tell you how
many families do nothing, and the intervention ends up
being a vehicular homicide, domestic battery, blackouts
where they can’t remember where they hurt themselves or others. And families think they’re
helping the alcoholic by doing nothing. And that’s just not how it works, because if you’re drinking and
the consequences are minimal, and everybody’s making
the alcoholic comfortable, why would they stop? And the family doesn’t think
that when they want help and they’re at their bottom, that they can actually do something first. They’re waiting for that alcoholic, and the family has the opportunity and the right to do something about it before it gets worse.

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