How to Escape Brainwashing and Other Emotional Abuse

How to Escape Brainwashing and Other Emotional Abuse

Welcome to Reaction Reset! I’m psychotherapist Mary Jo Rapini, and in this episode we’re finishing up a
two-part series on brainwashing. In the first video, I explained seven common
techniques that abusers use to trap and control their victims in a false reality. In this episode, I’m going to help you better understand why victims stay with
abusers and how a victim can get free. In the first video, I mentioned that abusers
first control their victims environment before controlling the victim. Therefore, brainwashing doesn’t happen overnight. So if you’re wondering how someone gets trapped in a reality that is so obviously false, remember it’s not
very obvious when it’s done slowly and gradually. Brainwashing is so effective
because much of the process is outside the realm of consciousness; the victim
isn’t aware or is in denial that it’s even happening until they’re stuck in it. If you love someone who you believe is being brainwashed, there isn’t much you
can do except to stay by their side. You have to wait until your loved one gets
their “a-ha moment” or as psychologists call it – their “awakening”. As I mentioned
in the first video, the abuser first isolates their victim. Don’t let your loved one become isolated from you if you believe they’re being
brainwashed. So let’s pretend you – as a victim – have had an ‘awakening.’ What can you do to escape? The first step is to undo the isolation. Open up to a family
member or friend that you can trust and will support you. Abuse is a crime, and I
strongly advise professional help. A therapist will be equipped to guide you
out of the abuse and keep everything confidential. You can also seek help online. Many sites will set you up with a mentor who escaped abuse. The second step is to educate yourself about brainwashing. Note the techniques that were used on you and how you responded. This will help you
validate yourself and understand what happened. You’ll need to replace the
abusers “tapes” in your head that told you that you were crazy, stupid, or weak. You
must accept that you’ve been under the control of someone who is mentally ill. It is not your fault, but it is your responsibility to escape. The third step
is to let go of your empathy for your abuser. You may try to convince yourself
that your abuser is worthy of your love or sympathy. You may think you can save them. DON’T spend any mental energy here. Brainwashing is a type of abuse – not love. It can distort your perception of love. Your abuser is mentally ill and needs
professional help – not your help. Protect yourself first. Calls, emails, or any form of communication from your abuser are off limits. Finally, realize that your
journey to recovery is just beginning. Just like brainwashing itself, undoing
brainwashing is a long slow process. You’re going to experience painful
thoughts, memories, and anxiety for a long time. You may want to go back to your abuser, thinking they changed or they didn’t
mean to hurt you. However, as you gain clarity and mental health, you’ll see
everything for what it was. Unfortunately, this may make you lose confidence in
yourself – that you were able to be brainwashed. You will need a therapist to
support you during this time. No matter how worthless or alone you feel, you have
the ability within you to restore your mind. Don’t believe for a second that the
fear is too much to bear. There are many people, including myself,
available to help you through the recovery. You will find peace again. Remember change your reaction, change your world

3 thoughts on “How to Escape Brainwashing and Other Emotional Abuse”

  1. Ok well. The thing is do you realize how much effort what you're talking about would take? I'm not saying it doesn't exist. What you're talking about sounds like actual prison to me. I don't know if I have experienced brain washing because I'm still not sure what it is. But from what you're saying I have experienced types of scenerios like you mentioned in your video and the good news is the effects I have experienced are mostly temporary. What a person does while it's going on though that's a scary thing from my experience. I have felt in my life that everyone wanted to harvest my organs and we're trying to get me to kill myself. I have cut my wrists. I have been in and out of psychiatric therapy and been on many different psychiatric drugs. I don't care to go on to all of the effects they have had on my brain and body which were many and probably unbelievable to someone who hasn't experienced it. But I can agree with you that someone who has been through what you describe can go on to live a pretty normal life even if it's still happening. My hope is that because what you are talking about takes so much energy that it is a rare occurrence. You can reach me at 2692678680 text first please as I don't answer unknown numbers as a rule. My name is Robert.

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