5 Habits That Changed My Life 🌞

5 Habits That Changed My Life 🌞


Hey everyone! Welcome back to Lavendaire. It’s Aileen. So good to see you again. Today I want to share five habits
that have changed my life. I first saw MuchelleB and Erin May Henry do this,
and I’ll link their videos below. But it inspired me to want to create a version myself. So the first habit that changed my life is
actually a mindset shift that I learned from Marie Forleo, one of the
women that I look up to. So instead of having the mindset of
“I already know this,” switch that mindset to “What can I learn from this?” So this applied to when I was taking Marie
Forleo’s course, B-School, because when you’re taking something like
an online course or you’re in class or just anywhere in life, sometimes we can have a mindset of, “Oh, I don’t need to learn this. I already know this. I already know this. I’ve heard this before.” Once you have that mindset, then you kind
of brush things off, and you know, there might be
some lesson in front of you, whether it’s in a course or in life that you don’t know and yet you’re just brushing over it as if
you already know everything. I think you have to go through life acting
as if you don’t know everything because then you have an open mind to learn. So it’s really an approach to being more curious,
open-minded, and humble in life, because instead of thinking you’ve already
been there, done that, you already know everything, consider: “What can I learn from this?” So yes, maybe you’ve seen these lessons before, but I’m sure there’s something new that there
is to be learned. There’s always something else that can be learned, so instead of approaching school or life through
the lens of “I already know this,” approach it through the lens of
“What can I learn from this?” The second habit that changed my life is really
obvious if you follow my channel. It’s journaling, specifically journaling to
help me organize my thoughts and to help me dig deep to discover what my
true emotions, feelings, and thoughts are. I’m one of those people that I don’t really
know what I’m thinking or feeling until I take the time to sit down and write it all out. I literally have to ask myself: What am I feeling? What do I really want? And then write it out, and then by the end
of a long journal entry, I’m like, “Oh, that’s what’s going on.” It’s not really surface-level for me. I really have to take the time to journal it out, and journaling helps me break down things,
organize my thoughts, analyze my thoughts. And it’s just something that is my own form of therapy. And I think, because I tend to be more of an introvert, that’s my way to communicate with myself. I like to work through my issues on my own, just kind of hitting my emotions and situations from all different angles and try to solve it myself. On the other hand, people who are more extroverted
probably like to talk things out with others and that’s how they discover more about their situation or about themselves or work through their problems. They need someone else to talk to. For me, it’s just me and my journal. Everything happens within,
and I don’t really like to share problems and talk it out with anyone else so much. I like to be my own best friend. And journaling has saved my life so many times. The third habit that changed my life is adopting
the KonMari minimalist mindset. So if you’ve followed my channel for a while,
you should know what it is. KonMari means Marie Kondo’s way of thinking. Marie Kondo is the author of
The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up. She has this life philosophy to only bring
in physical things and only keep the physical things that spark
joy within you. And it’s just the mindset of a minimalist. Every single thing that you own, everything
that’s in your space should be there intentionally. It should be there because you love it, you
want it there, and it makes you happy. And this can be applied to all areas of life,
not just your physical things, so it really helped me kind of filter out the clutter in my life, mentally, with the people. Every aspect of your life, you could learn
to intentionally hand pick and design, you know, “This person makes me happy so I
want to keep in touch with this person. This person does not necessarily give me good vibes, so I’m willing to distance myself from that person.” This was really helpful in terms of productivity too, because it helps you prioritize what projects
or pursuits are most important to you, what will really matter in the end, which
ones bring you the most joy. And so you learn to not focus your time and waste your time on things that are not as important, which brings me to my next habit that changed my life: Learning to do the most important things first. I learned this concept from the book,
Getting Things Done by David Allen, which is a great productivity book. It will help you revamp your whole system
of how you get things done, basically. And it also relates to the KonMari minimalist mindset in really focusing down on what’s important. Doing those most important tasks first, you’re
getting the most value for your time spent, because you’re working on the biggest most important thing that you could be working on. So people like to think I’m a productive person. I’m actually not very productive most of the time. Yes I have my good days where I’m like boom-boom-boom, knocking things out. But most days, I’m really not doing much during my day. I wake up pretty late. I wake up like 10:00, 11:00, 12:00 PM. Then I really just prioritize doing the most one or two important things in my day, and then once I’m done with that I feel good
about my day. So you have to ask yourself: “If I were to only complete one or two things today, what things will those be?” And then prioritize those. Do those first. It will change your life. It will just make you more productive and effective. You might not get as much done as before, because those important things are hard and
they take more time than others. But they’re the most important. It’s just been a great strategy for me so far. The fifth habit that immensely changed my life is learning to cultivate gratitude as a daily, consistent practice. It really is shifting your mindset from focusing
on what you don’t have, focusing on what’s going wrong, to focusing
on what you do have, focusing on what’s going right, and being thankful for everything that you do have in your life. I know it’s said over and over again, how important gratitude is, but I can’t emphasize it enough. The way that you see the world heavily impacts
how you feel and it heavily shapes your reality as well. So if you see the world through the lens of
– you’re cynical, there’s so much chaos in the world, nothing’s going right, everything’s going
wrong, people are horrible… Then that’s what you’re going to see in your world. But if you shift that lens into being grateful
for everything that you do have like, “Oh my gosh, I get to live in the first world. I have food, I have water, I have technology,” there’s just so much that we have, so much
to be grateful for. Just learning to see the joy and the beauty in all the little moments, it will change your life so much. It just changes how you see things, and when
you change how you see things, you really change how you feel and you change
the reality of your life. The way that this has manifested in my life is: I’m just more joyful and light-hearted about
the tiny, simple things. There’s so much delightful little moments
I have in every day, or just seeing my plant grow a new leaf makes
me so happy. Or seeing a really neat fridge makes me really
happy as well. Or laughing at my own silly jokes or silly
puns that I think of in my head. There’s so much fun that you could have in this world. There’s so much beauty everywhere, that even
when you’re having a bad day, you can still find something to be grateful for. You can still find something that is beautiful,
something that is a miracle in the world. And when you see the world through that lens, that positive lens of love and beauty and
joy, it really changes everything. It’s really just the major shift. You can live in the same world as another
human being and yet see two completely different things
because the power is in your mindset. The power is in the lens that you see the
world through. Just learning how to shift that lens. In the beginning you have to do it intentionally, make it a practice to do some gratitude journaling
every day, listing things you’re grateful for, and then
just practicing finding things to smile at. And over time it just becomes a part of your
mindset and your personality. It becomes ingrained in who you are. It just becomes more natural. And so now I generally feel like I’m more
of a light-hearted person. Even when things go wrong,
I could just breathe and relax, still be grateful for some things and practically
deal with the problem that’s in front of me. But it’s just not as emotional of a roller
coaster as it used to be. Alright, those are the five habits that have
changed my life. Let me know if you have a favorite. Let me know if you learned anything or was
everything pretty obvious after you’ve watched my videos and gotten
to know me. I hope you have a beautiful day. Love you all so much, and look out for the
next video that’s coming out. I’m gonna share six books that have changed my life. Bye!

100 thoughts on “5 Habits That Changed My Life 🌞”

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  2. Recently subscribe your channel. And watched your all the videos…all are just awesome dear. Really appreciate your work.

  3. I've started journaling…. And it is actually helping me. Thank u so much for your videos… I can feel their positive impact in my life.

  4. I am totally convinced by what you are saying. I really love to watch your video to get myself more energy. If we have look at the bright side, we make the world a better place. It's our hands. Thanks again!

  5. I feel the same as you, when it comes to seeing & feeling happy or thankful for the things around me. I did work really hard at in the beginning because I was tired of being negative.. I also wanted to let you know how interesting you are when you talk about your topics, your personality is inviting & peaceful.

  6. I love you! You are such an inspiration! ❤️❤️❤️🤗
    Blessings always Aileen! 👍
    Keep up the amazing work you do!

  7. humming_words_on_the_tree

    Have i fallen in love with you… Hell yes ♥ so love the things u have to share and the journal and gratitude and the girl who is spreading love…

  8. I love how you put " my life" instead of "…that will change your life!" because it makes it seem like you can actually get something from it that has worked for someone else rather than like a lifehack

  9. Hello, I am a new one on your channel and I can completely identifiate myself with everything you describe for you : eliminate the wrong vibes, do the important things first, organise your home with only joy making furnitures… It makes me happy to watch your video cause this it the very first one I play on Youtube on this theme ! Continue with this goodwill and simplicity, it is great ! And even if I speak English more or less fluently, I really appreciate the French subtitles 🙂

  10. the space thing is so true too! I need to redo my space…. im in a stressful time in my life where Im thinking about moving and I really am excited to get new things to make my space mine.

  11. For Tip #5
    Do your thoughts create your environment,
    or does your environment create your thoughts?
    what do you guys think? (I always love this question!)

  12. 1 switch from "I already know this" mindset to "What can I learn from it" mindset
    2 journaling
    3 KonMari declutter method
    4 prioritize, do the most important tasks first
    5 being grateful, enjoy the little things

  13. Okey… So now you are on my HOW I CAN MOTIVATE MYSELF – list… ❤️❤️❤️❤️🤩Your ideas and ur thinking about life is sooo motivated and help me on my bad days

  14. I´m greatful about the little things, what I have, who I am, where I am, but I get negativity not about me but about others, where others live, how others have to live, etc. I can be greatful about my life but I need that everyone can be free and happy to be compleatly gratful about the universe

  15. I can’t sleep tonight and thus have been binge-watching your videos. I can now happily say that I’m a subscriber. I think I may finally have reached a point at which I can sleep successfully… but I have enjoyed discovering your videos and look forward to exploring more of your older posts as well as new uploads. Thank you for what you do ❤️

  16. Ok,you are my favorite youtuber now. You are just amazing. Soo smart,so good,soo pure. You really change the people. Thank you so much 💐🌹🌺

  17. i feel like journaling is the life changer for me because it makes you explore the hidden or underlying cause of your worries in life and just being able to put out thoughts onto paper is the most satisfying thing ever.

  18. #1!!!! I feel like the only person I know who has this mindset, and I’m so glad that I haven’t lost it through the years. It blows my mind how some people can think that they know all they need to…there’s endless things to be learned out there, why waste the opportunity?

  19. if you're a person who are lazy to bring a book/journal everywhere, here's a thread. download reflectly. it's a journaling app that you can absolutely update everywhere. i really, really recommend this app bc it also had helped me when i'm in my stress moments.

  20. Aileen..I am watching this today. And it's like getting my mind sharper and lighter. I am feeling lost and uncourageuo s . I might be 'beating myself up' without even noticing and meditating and seeing this made me aware..and I can reconnect into my inner true self that has the ability to experience joy from simple things..So I know rest will help..eating healthy food..so that I can be stronger and more alive as I try to intentionally create the life of my dreams as you say..Question. . Did you ever feel like moving to a different place change your ability to do better..? I'm in a non English speaking country and feel that something about that hinder me or makes me feel like I'm an outsider..when I really feel it's important for me to feel like I belong. .Thanks Aileen for your inspiring messages and vids. They are truly a light

  21. I have just started journaling but what you said about it was so relatable exept for me it's just… talking to myself

  22. Thanks. You really gave me a little hope, in my lowest lows. Everyday I wake up to see political scandals and unfair slandering of innocent men, racism. Makes me see and think about only the negativity in this world, makes me think about how cruel the world is. Well, you are right, I have to try and make a habit to see positivity even in this corrupting ,negative, horrible environment. Little beautiful things, as source of happiness. You stay the same. 💖

  23. I have a question: How could we journaling without being AFRAID that SOMEONE ELSE READ your intimate thoughts? How do you do it? Is there a method to keep it private? Thanks for your answers!

  24. I am 68 and I am learning so much with you , such a young person. I love your videos. I think I will send them to my daughter. I like your ideas and how you approach life. Congratulations for being so young and so knowledgeable.

  25. I think we can all learn something amazing from this video! even if the tips are things we are told or some would think mundane you clearly explained everything in detail so we can all learn from it. this was so eye opening and beautiful and cant wait to rewatch this whenever needed 🙂

  26. Laimarie Escotido

    I was feeling so down today and then i saw this video. Your voice is so calm and brings peace to my ♥. Thanks for sharing this.

  27. I love your channel so much! you inspire me every single day so thenk you! I was wondering which pen do you use for journaling? thank you!

  28. “My own best friend”
    I love time alone to gather my thoughts. I don’t feel the need to always tell anyone my problems or challenges.

  29. Everything that's in your space should be there because you love it, you want it there, and it makes you happy… OK, I am off to do some decluttering! This is splendid advice!

  30. Thank you Aileen for those useful tips and sharing your positive vibes 💕 I would be so happy to have so many friends like you in real life 😊🌸

  31. Lavandaire I likes ur videos can u tell me ur parents support what ur doing plzz it's necessary that's why ask u becz I want some questions about me

  32. Aileen, i'd like to thank you. i just broken up with my boyfriend, it was a 2-year long relationship. your videos bring me so much joy, so i'm dealing better with this situation. thank you for bringing light to my life.

  33. The Metamorphosis Channel

    Wow… I really enjoy your channel. You are very relatable and seem genuine in the topics you talk about. I so so so much want to get on the "other side" and become lighthearted, and no longer see the world the the gloom & doom lens that just seems to always be there… I really want to change and be a more positive, lighthearted person… thank you so much for this lovely video! (I actually originally found you from a travel/how-to-pack video :P) **Last (tech) question: I used to do YT vids, and will start doing them again soon… I'm not necessarily trying to make money (it used to be just a passion project), but I'm curious. You said you wake up at noon… O_O lol Do you make all your money from Youtube/?? Amazing! I'd love to be able to only do YT vids 🙂 How does it work? Do you have a video on that?

  34. Hello,

    I have been a subscriber for a while a just now catching up on your videos. They are very positive and I appreciate the time and effort you put into each one.

    Continued success on your channel and in your life.

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